went for mother's day celebration yesterday.....all my relatives went too....we went to Bather's cafe and restaurant at sunset way, clementi arcade......the ambience is very romantic with dim lightings and beautiful decorations....having dinner with them is somehow stressful....coz they will ask about studies, work ,etc.....one of my cousin graduated from jc last year but he is still unable to get a place in ntu/nus/smu....it's really tough and yet my fifth uncle kept on asking him to get into local uni and kept on saying that he could retake the exams if he did not meet the requirements.....and he even repeated it for three times.....sian....this is what happened to the eldest cousin....as for another cousin, my fifth uncle was so angry and disappointed that she applied for polytechnic and my fourth uncle(her dad), even told her that he will not pay for her education if she ever decided to study overseas......lol....that is like forcing her to go into jc.....but after few weeks of studying at jc, she decided to study at polytechnic, pursuing a course she likes.......it's horrible when many of the uncles and aunties keep asking about your results, comparing results and insisting on studying at jc, then local university.....i'm the second eldest in the family and i am the first one who chose to go against their will and chose poly instead of jc....and it's really stressful when relatives start commenting about negative stuff about poly, etc....so i'm really happy when i finally graduated from nyp and i will be studying at sim soon.....congraz to ppl who can get into ntu, nus or smu....coz this are really good schools.....i'm not really disappointed when i can't get into smu as my gpa is not really good as compared to others but i have already tried my best....i am still deciding whether to take business management/business (marketing) in sim.....my fifth uncle does not really like me studying at sim but he will definitely nag at me if i decided to stop studying after poly......he still thinks that private university are no good but i can't get into the course i want in local uni so at least now i'm studying the course i like in sim.....that is the path i choose and i will not regret it, even if it means not getting a good job/lower pay......coz i believe that i will be able to overcome all the obstacles and get a good job....i've always thought that family gatherings are supposed to be lively and fun...but instead, it is always very tense and scary when relatives start telling you what to do in the future.....it's so irritating as i like to plan my future myself.....and we(me and my cousins) are not robots where we have to go jc then uni then get a good job, buy condominums and cars, branded bags and clothes, then marry and have kids.....life like that is so boring if we ever decided to listen to my fifth uncle......he is the youngest uncle and yet highly respected by everyone as he is the richest in my family too....i know he is rich and successful but why must all the adults treat him differently from the others?ahhhh......enough of all this complaining and stressful stuff.....i just want to emphasize that my father's relatives are very different from my mother's relatives....my mum's relatives are very supportive and always encouraging us to study hard and try our best, and won't never force us to do something against our will......how shall i describe it? its just like my blood pressure will go up when i meet my dad's relatives and my blood pressure will go down when i meet my mum's relatives.....zzzzzzzzzz